Is The Grass Actually Greener On The Other-Side?

At some point in your life, you have wondered haven’t you?

Is the Grass Actually Greener On The Other Side?

For you, the grass might be your work, your relationship, or possibly where you are living.

You will be thinking, a new job, new relationship, or a new city to live in, that will make the difference, then I will be happy.

Does that sound familiar?

If you did go to the other side, how did it work out for you?

I’m definitely not saying don’t do it, by all means go and try different things, but before you go, think about this.

Can the grass actually be greener on this side of the fence, the side you are on currently?

I agree, it may not look the best at the moment, and it is going to be hard work to get it green again. It might be tired from being stepped on too many times, and completely run down, but does that mean you need to leave it for what looks to be greener on the other side.

Here’s a little inside knowledge for you.

Unless you know how to keep the grass green right where you are, then there is every chance that the grass on the other side of the fence, is going to look exactly the same as where you are right now, soon after you arrive.

That sounds a little depressing doesn’t it, especially when it looks sooo green from this side of the fence, and so inviting.

Unfortunately the shine will wear off the new job, the new relationship will feel like the last one, and the new city you escaped to, well, it just doesn’t feel right does it. And believe me, I have tried it.

After much practice, I realised that until I did the necessary work on me, then it didn’t matter what I did. After the initial excitement, I soon discovered I was feeling exactly the same as I had prior to coming to the greener side.

So what do you do about it?

How do you make sure your grass is green right where you are, allowing you the ability to make a decision about whether or not you should stay put, perhaps with some changes, or go to the other side.

Take a look at your life, not just your job, or relationship, but look at what makes up your life.

When you have lost your identity, and you feel like you are at your lowest point, it seems like trying to get back to being you, is nearly impossible.

Yet it really only takes a few small changes in your life to realise that YOU have been there all along. All you needed to do was simply blow off a layer of dust, add some water, and get your grass green right where you are.

For me it was getting myself mentally fit, and making sure I had the ability to make decisions from a healthy frame of mind.

When I started working on me, which meant making sure my fitness was good, I was eating healthy meals, I had a good relationship with my family and friends, and I was doing the work necessary on myself, consistently, to make sure I maintained a healthy mindset, and outlook on life. I made sure my adventurous side was taken care of, as well as making sure I was nurturing myself through meditation, time in nature, and taking the time to be mindful in my normal every day activities.

What it will be for you might be completely different to me, but taking the time to find out what you need for you, is well worth the investment, and may save a good deal of frustration, and potentially heartache. 

When you have the grass green on the side of the fence you are on currently, only then are you in the position mentally to decide what your next move is.

Isn’t it time you started living life on your terms.

Published by Simon | The School of Purpose

An optimistic introvert, helping introverts overcome self doubt, build confidence, and start living life on purpose.

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